5 Things LGBTQIA+ or Queer Couples Can Do to Survive and Thrive During the Holidays.
Hey there, lovely readers! I'm Liz Davis, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist here in beautiful Kansas City, MO and I'm excited to share some valuable insights on a topic that's close to my heart. The holiday season can be a joyful time, but for many Queer couples, it can also be a time of stress and potential challenges, especially when dealing with conservative or religious family members. So, I've put together a list of five things that can help you not just survive, but thrive during the holidays!
Open and Honest Communication
Communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Sit down with your partner before the holiday season and discuss your expectations, fears, and hopes for this time of year. It's essential to be on the same page and have a united front when it comes to facing conservative or religious family members. Make sure to express your needs and boundaries clearly to your partner, and work together to find solutions that respect both your relationship and your family ties.
Set Boundaries
Boundaries are your best friends during the holidays. Clearly define your boundaries with your partner and discuss how you both want to handle potentially difficult situations. When it comes to conservative or religious family members, let them know what is and isn't acceptable when it comes to discussing your relationship. Remember, it's okay to protect your emotional well-being and prioritize your relationship.
Educate and Advocate
In some cases, your family members may not fully understand or accept your relationship. Take this opportunity to educate and advocate for yourself. Share resources, articles, or books that can help them better understand the LGBTQIA+ experience. Encourage open-minded conversations and be patient as they process new information. Sometimes, it takes time for people to change their perspectives.
Create Your Own Holiday Traditions
One of the most beautiful aspects of the holiday season is the opportunity to create your own traditions. Embrace this and establish your unique celebrations. Invite friends or chosen family members to join in and make these traditions your own. By focusing on your own joy and togetherness, you can find a sense of belonging and comfort even if you face resistance from conservative relatives.
Reach Out for Support
Remember, you're not alone. Reach out to LGBTQIA+ support groups, friends, or therapists (like me!) who can provide you with guidance, empathy, and a safe space to express your feelings. Connecting with your Queer community in Kansas City, MO can be incredibly empowering and reassuring during the holiday season.
Please know that your relationship is valid, important, and worth celebrating. As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I want to remind you that self-care is paramount. Whether you're navigating conservative family dynamics or embracing your chosen family, taking care of your mental and emotional well-being should be a top priority!
Wishing you a holiday season filled with love, joy, and the strength to overcome any challenges that come your way. You are resilient, and your love is a beautiful thing to celebrate!
If you ever need further guidance or support, please don't hesitate to reach out to me, Liz Davis, your local therapist in Kansas City. I'm here to help you and your partner thrive, not just during the holidays but throughout the entire year. Stay strong, and stay proud!
